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Personal account of my life - as a battered wife - domestic violence 101

some of my story - please do not listen if you are sensitive or if it may set off triggers due to mentions of domestic violence and rape.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dV25H0G2ZOc

 

Please share it where you feel appropriate. I am no longer shamed to share what I lived thru.

Suzanne Perry

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Suzanne Perry: Victim to victor. Living thru domestic violence, my photographs

 in response to mealso...   How HORRIBLE, Im so sorry to hear of this... but am glad you are now safe. I support people morally not financially... I have everything in the world except money... in fact my gas was off for 7 days, we had to take freezing cold showers and no cooking or dryer... it could have been worse, my water could have been shut off.... but I would ask your local social services and domestic violence bureau.... And I wish you the very best.
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Victims of Domestic Violence and Family Abuse, a Knol by Suzanne Perry

http://knol.google.com/k/suzanne-perry/victims-of-domestic-violence-and-family/3i95w0zc0vckx/1#

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Breaking the Silence, Suzanne Perry at Buffalo State College

Buffalo State College talk to break the silence on domestic violence and abusive relationships.

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Suzanne Perry speaks about her life with an abuser

Buffalo State College, Breaking the Silence. I brought some musician friends to perform and encouraged see something SAY something.

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Suzanne Perry: Victim to victor. Living thru domestic violence, my photographs

http://www.slideshare.net/enoughofit7/suzanne-perry11-2210

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I got an Angel

HOORAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Understanding domestic violence

 in response to fates_envy...   where do you live? (town)
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Sometimes things need to fall apart so other things can fall together

Hello friends. How silly am I. I will spin my wheels off in Antarctica and not realize I had a job right up the road from my house.
Since the recession sucked my techs out of me (the pay plummeted and I couldnt keep them full time or else lose money to keep working), I was going to study the trade of telecommunication and drive.

Why? I already have a non-profit company almost a year old, I am very public, have a huge facebook and online presence, conduct public speaking, and held a global concert to expose domestic violence.

Ive expanded my audience by covering things like a biker's run, a zombie walk, a Buffalo Bills tailgate party, and speaking at colleges!

Why am I going to learn cross-connections in a telco closet, what was I thinking!?

I started posting my availability all over and the same day, I got called by some companies to hire me out for promotions. Well color me happy, that's what I love to do, hand out free stuff, smile, and mingle with the public!

The past week has been booking after booking! Two weeks ago I had the flu, was shivering in bed under the blankets, and the gas company came and shut me off (Im in Buffalo NY). I have hit as rock botom as I could be before going homeless.

If I had a dime for every time I heard my needs would be met, then, heck, my needs would be met. I made the last 2 calls today, one to internet adn one to cell phone carrier... everybody is in check now. I can do the jobs, get paid, and feel like a real mother again. Not being able to afford a good meal or school supplies had me feeling pretty low.

It never tarnished my spirit though, for months my slogan has been, 'piss poor, my spirits soar..' :)

Thanks friends... its not easy, but you have to be proactive and aggressively go after things you need. Im not even talking about wants here. I want a new computer desk, but I need to keep my lights on.

Thanks for being encouraging and sharing my friendship and conversations. I hope you google me and read my articles, see my photography and check out some of my videos.

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adsence not making me any cents

Hi friends. Well it's been almost a year. I have Google ads all over the place on my blogs, websites, bla bla... and I haven't received any payments.

I think its more hassle then its worth. If I were actually given incentive to have advertising on my pages I might consider keeping it but to be used as free advertising? I dont like it.

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I did it! The EXPOSURE Concert: Because love shouldnt hurt was watched in 8 countries and almost 30 states

 in response to Starshine...   

thank you!!!

final stats were 8 countries 34 states!! :) and yesterday, I found that it was published in England!! Wahoo!! 

More incentive to march harder and longer!

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I did it! The EXPOSURE Concert: Because love shouldnt hurt was watched in 8 countries and almost 30 states

 in response to Starshine...   

NDStudios is the production company who will be releasing video. Some of the bands captured it live.

Friday Aug 13 2010

Chris Squier, Silkat6, Michael Bly, Soul Custody, Guilty PArty, Falling Into Place, GrundnerHall, Family Jewels, Fare Trade

Saturday, Aug 14

Change of Face, Bitter Sweet, Todd Andrews, Miss the Mark, Skyway, Sandi Pack & East of Eden, Forever Green, Inner Chyld, Silver Xtreme, Your Loving X, Old Skool, BloodShot, Wanted by the FBI, Jack Bastard & Dirty Martini, Big Tree Road, Hair Nation

Sunday Aug 15

Black Widow, Megan Callahan, PowerPlay, 3rd in the Box, Disco Duck, Mista Perez, No Excuses, Allergic Reaction Band, Studio 54, Mystic Traversion, Jessica H, Morning After Pills, The Steve Balesteri Band, Fingerlickin Good, Little Louis Band, Sharen Wendy Robertson.

 Thanks!! My website is opmusichouse dot org and my you tube channel is 'enoughofit'.

Suzanne Perry

-rock free, because love shouldn't hurt.

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I did it! The EXPOSURE Concert: Because love shouldnt hurt was watched in 8 countries and almost 30 states

 Im sorry for not writing in a bit, I've been a little busy.

Last Friday, actually this very minute one week ago was kicking off a huge undertaking for me - what was planned as 50 bands and 2 stages for 2 days of music and ended up being 47 various musical acts, one stage, and 3 days, did stream live around the world to expose domestic violence and abuse.

I did it. Darn right I'm proud.

Approximately each half hour, each act came on their own nickel, performed for a half-hour and on to the next band.

It was better than I had planned. It was brought up several times; how all these bands normally would be out their own way gigging, but for these 3 days, growlers, rockers, metal-heads, R&B, hip hop and rock and rollers conjugated and were able to see each other play. Most popular bands in Western New York all together. How cool is that. Several new friends and contacts were made, club owners, lighting folks, sound folks, musicians, all complimented each other and were shaking hands. They got more gigs. Because of me. That rocks my world.

It started as an idea back in January when I announced my new non-profit called OP Music House, Inc. Since then, Ive been on most radio stations, in most of the newspapers, welcomed over the night life scene, have done some speaking engagements and invited to do more, asked to be in a music video and to help organize other events. WOW!

The more I speak out, the more stories I hear. It helps me to fill m knowledge base to help others. I write and speak to educate to eradicate domestic violence and abuse. I have been shown by the public that there is room for me, and people are listening. For that I am grateful. The cause is horrible but real, so I am addressing it right in the face.

Thank you for your support, for reading my articles, for your emails and calls, and letters. I personally read everything and hear every message. Every one means so much to me. It reaffirms the need for my voice to wake up people to say its NOT okay to look the other way and its NOT limited to gender, race, age, creed or career.

I currenly support people nationally to acknowledge people involved or who's acquaintence is involved in abuse - which is control. Remember, those who control are weaklings. Hard to imagine but its true. I am making a video of pictures I have dug out along with some other momentums to demonstrate common characteristics of abusers.

Feel free to find me online, on my facebook or blog, or website. Chin up, faith up! The feedback from the concert was so great that its already booked for next year!

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 in response to robinart40...   

Thank you Robinart. I love writing to educate, enrich and enlighten.  Trying to centralize my thoughts and photography is my next feat. Im trying to use my blog to do that but dont know if I can get my photojournal on there...

 I appreciate all feedback. Thank you and bless you all.

Suzanne

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 in response to positive thoughts...   

Thank you VERY much :)

Ive joined Helium now also... I write all over the place....

 where ever I can help someone until I reach them all... my work is cut out for me.

I hope you will watch the Exposure Concert Aug 14-15... its own site will be live May 15 to expose domestic violence. (43 bands)

Ive gone as far as in home free 'sessions' to help explain what I see in why people get so worked up thinking another telling them they are not good enough, is wrong.

I keep finding new ways to help people and reach out just a little further each time.

Rock on in peace,

Suzanne

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OP Music House unites local bands to play in globally broadcast concert, Exposing domestic violence

 ORCHARD PARK, NY, April 17, 2010 /24-7PressRelease/ -- The idea was announced in a Feburary, and the Facebook page was created. Now, with 1842 friendly supporters and Verizon as its first sponsor, the EXPOSURE Concert is making its way around the musical circuit.

Forty-two bands brought together by one strong voice to put forth the 'EXPOSURE Concert, Because Love Shouldn't Hurt.'

Music is the universal language, and Suzanne Perry speaks it fluently. She has been an avid fan all her life, from classic to alt rock, jazz to punk, alternative, to grunge to modern. Having endured 22 years of control and abuse, over the past 2.5 years, she has emerged from the ashes and figured out her new direction. Her love of music and the desire to help others who want to understand the 'how's and the 'why's of abuse in the home fuse together and OP Music House was founded.

The 2 day concert event will take place August 14 and 15th, 2010 at Club Paradise in Blasdell, New York. The venue is adjacent to McKinley's Hotel, where Perry encourages adults that may be consuming alcohol, to book a hotel room Saturday night, and enjoy day 2 of the concert without risking drinking and driving. Specialized wristbands will identify under age patrons as it is an all age affair with finger food, face painting, raffles, games and prizes.

The concert is a fundraiser whose proceeds will be used to secure a facility, and get a jump-start on operating costs and staff for the OP Music House, currently a work-in-progress.

ND Productions out of Tonawanda, NY was brought on board, and an interactive concert website 'ExposureConcert.com' will be active May 1, 2010. ND will record the event, mix and edit it down with concert-goers' photo and video uploads from the show, and then have it available for sale on DVD as a special rememberance of this first of its kind event.

The show is based on the theory that if abusers were exposed, they wouldn't do it. As an extra amplification, OP Music House and ND are streaming the show live around the world, to help everybody to expose abuse, and promote peace through music. The idea has already come up to make it an annual event.

For sponsorship or additional information, please email, call, chat or instant message.

OP Music House, Inc. is a non-profit corporation whose mission is to give young adults exposure to what's involved in "being a rock star." On-site usage of instruments, a stage/venue to enhance, stimulate and enrich their musical peforming talents, and hands-on experimenting with the recording and mixing process is provided, all free of charge as a community service. Interactive enrichment sessions will be held to raise self-esteem and bring out artistic talents. Regular guest speakers, mentors and professional musicians guide musical amateurs into the real-world industry. An emergency 24-hour hotline will also be activated.
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Trying to find my niche...

I wander the world wide web, looking for that 'perfect niche' that I know doesn't exist. I compare myself to Beatle George.  For the most of it, his material was suppressed outside of his 1-2 songs per album. After the Beatles' break-up, he was first to come out with something -- and what  a something it was! A triple album entitled 'All Things Must Pass' which I love, feel and breathe. And it blasted right to a well-deserved #1.

Since my new-found freedom, I started a telecommunication company, which is nearing its 2-year anniversary. It's NY State Certified, partnered with Ingram Micro and a Cisco select partner, and in the local and the U.S. Women's Chambers of Commerce.

Today, I am also a journalist, a photojournalist, a roving reporter, and a critic. I promote local everything as well and write everywhere.

Most importantly to me though, is I have become a friend of the local music scene - the bands, the promoters, the staging crews, the venue managers and owners and the fans. I have come out to meet them and we have literally hugged. I even hand out prizes to try and find people who may need just to know someone understands, or to be a spark of hope, and meet hundreds of people every weekend.  My friendship and fan base on Facebook exploded.  People actually care about me and what I have to say. The reason why, unfortunately, is a common ground - domestic violence and abuse.

This writing is not to mull about that. I just want to write, and can't find anywhere that it fits in tonight.  I've been writing for several blogs, columns and specialty visits, and I love to do it. I am proud that my writings get a huge following and response. My issue is I don't know what to do with it next.  I feel that I need an action item.

The EXPOSURE Concert is really getting alot of hype... I'm getting ready to launch a street crew spearheaded by my daughter, Jackie. Many of the bands have been impacted, directly or indirectly, and the cause is personal to them; so it's a full circle for so many of us. We are uniting to expose it, because that's the only way out.

My next set of goals include launching a radio show promoting stuff I think is cool, calling out the next hits in music, recommending bands that I think have "the sound," and helping people in their relationships in whatever way people want me to... funny, or drop-dead serious. I'm here for them, not for me.

I am a music historian and live melodies. I got over the fact my musical intake and exposure was stifled for 22 years only listening to classic rock... since September 2008 I left that stale arena and starting with Temple of the Dog's 'Hungerstrike', taught myself everything since, with YouTube, Wiki, searches and forums. I get it now, I'm back in the saddle, and lovin every minute of it! I have learned who Pearl Jam was and is, and have actually painted 'Alive' in my bathroom, because I didn't want the same-old dolphin or ocean theme.

Stuff I thought was off limits for me... from finding jewelry and clothes that I think are 'me'.. to traveling I find myself doing.. I've gone to help my very best friend since 1st grade out in Red Rock, Arizona, and also flew to Los Angeles, for a week, saw Laguna and Venice Beach with another friend since grammar school; companies were fly me to NYC and LA, this was amazing. I turned my business trip into a 'Peace Mission' and my friend will attest, as well as the hundreds of Facebook photos, I made tons of friends, met lots of musicians, and they have sent me really touching emails saying how they love what I'm doing. How rewarding to me. It only makes me want to go more. Reach more people. Make a difference and keep it going.

I show everything to my Facebook friends, it was really cool getting ariel pics, especially of sunrise descending over Chicago, to Eddie Vedder's 'Rise' a beautiful song featuring mandolin, a very spiritual feel. Music means so much to me. At my own house, TV has been non-existent since April, 2008. The radio is on from my waking til my sleeping moment, every single day. I keep abreast of current events by reading the news online, and overviews of my facebook friends.

I had to un-learn all the stuff that was embedded and beaten into my beliefs... and started to learn for myself, and draw my own conclusions. I find that people are pretty cool.  Ya gotta stay away from the negative, the whiney, the woa is me folks, and the drama freaks, but after a while, you learn how to pick them out. I can't believe all the amazing, positive, good people, that I have met in the past year. I've partied with tons of facebook friends virtually, which means chatting while having a few beers. Its great.  We get to know each other without leaving the house, no drinking and driving, just chilling and talking about stuff happening in our worlds.

I believe things fall apart so other things fall together, often we miss our calling because we're too busy with little crap to notice, that we don't take the time to acknowledge people, and put too much into shiny things.

Don't tell me for one minute that you can't make a difference. I am one person. I have made a difference. And it feels so good, that it's become my destiny as kooky as that sounds. I'm all for peace, music and freedom. If someone can find fault with that... then they just suck.

I care about every person because every person has a purpose, is beautiful and has promise. Too often we don't realize greatness just beyond our finger tip's reach. Once in a while, we need to let go and lie in a country field and stare at the stars. With some cool music playing in the background to fit your mood.. maybe James Taylor, maybe some Beatles.. maybe some Moody Blues.. or maybe even some Pearl Jam.. music definitely enriches... way more than TV can... TV takes us away from each other... and I believe music brings us together... oh and with that, Longview from Greenday just came on.

I hope I can find some places to post this, cuz I feel people care, but it doesn't fit under self-help, morals and values, entertainment, none of that... !?!?!? help

love you guys - Peace Priestess
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Victim of domestic violence in need of financial help, please read

 in response to blakeshope...   Hello how are you getting along? I have been traveling to gather support and promote peace and non-violence.
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No excuse not to 'expose yourself' free presence! Thank you Google and Merchant Circle

 in response to nini3...   

Thank you for your note.  I have not received a red cent from Google. I have 3 websites all running google ads, and I even made a post about it. Nothing.

 So my business websites I have removed the Google ads and search windows. It's been 5 months, and I would have expected at least $25 in that period of time... nada.

I set up Etsy too, flatlined.

So I must be doing something blatantly wrong... or maybe just gullible. I like to see the good in everything, which leads me to be naive at times. ?as in being ripped off?

So I know what Im good at, and so far Im not being paid enough to live on. But God tells me to continue to do this work because it helps and inspires others and helps to bring others closer to Him so I do it.

I get by on less and less, theres not much left I can give up to live. But regardless my chin is up and my heart smiles.

I'm sorry its not the answer you were looking for. Its an answer based on my experience, and that's all I can report on as knowing to be true.

 Best of luck and if I learn anything new, I'll let you know.

 Suzanne

 

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Music for hope (exposing domestic violence and abuse) is going to be heard 'round the world!

What do you get when you take 22 years of being held down, 2 years of freedom, 23 bands, two stages, two days and 1,060 supporters? You get the EXPOSURE Concert.

 

And we’re not done.

Yesterday was a fantastic day of progress.  I went to Page’s Paradise Island in Depew, met the raffle winner, Greg Graham of Williamsville, and presented him with the Jackson electric guitar played and signed by all of Def Leppard. OP Music House presents to winner

I followed that up with an afternoon of great food, games and glow-in-the-dark putt-putt with my kids at Page’s, and then off to an evening meeting with my Marketing and Promotions Director and a trio from a production company, to be named a little later on.

All five of us left the meeting with big smiles.

The OP Music House is still accepting bands to play a set at the EXPOSURE Concert, a two-day concert promoting peace through music. At the time of this publishing, 23 acts are confirmed. OP Music House’s cause is to expose domestic violence and abuse. The idea is - if abusers were exposed, they wouldn’t do it.

The latest? We’re goin GLOBAL!  The EXPOSURE Concert is going to stream live ‘round the world!  Just like when The Beatles, ‘All You Need is Love’ was simulcast back in 1967, but with better technology. This is a mini-Woodstock, August 14-15, in Western New York, at Club Paradise.

The bands, my staff, and I are totally stoked.

In March I’m going to Los Angeles and you will probably hear me back at home, spreading the word of the concert, the cause, and of the awesome people of Western New York.

I write to educate about domestic violence and abuse. I seek those in the dark and will stop at nothing.  I am thankful for those I have been allowed to help.

For more information please visit www.opmusichouse.org or call Suzanne Perry at 716.548-5013.

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